Whenever I read a story of how someone in the scene has overcome rejection, I see a lot of positive, supportive reactions. These stories, almost always from women, go something along the lines of:
"I was too scared so I didn't ask" or even "I was rejected so many times …
I think all of us know the experience of a small community. Maybe we were in a club in High School, or an online forum or some other world. We know the dangers of dating within that group, of the awkwardness of having dated someone in that community, and then …
Hey Bottoms,
Did you have a great time last night? Did the top really give you a good scene? Did they help you feel really good? Did you enjoy yourself?
Then drop them a little note the next day.
Many tops (including myself) will tell a bottom that if they …
Safety signals are very important, especially if you're playing with someone you don't know well.
Not that long ago, someone wanted to do a scene with me and told me her safeword was... I don't actually remember, so let's say it was abrachiocephalia.
"What? I don't know that word." I …
I've recently been reading Sacred Power, Holy Surrender and there's a section on it about the concept of service. It's made me consider my entire approach to service in a different way.
When I was a child, service was a complex topic. We owned a bakery and my parents (but …
I've come across a few people who have read my writing either before meeting me or after meeting and considering playing with me, and a few of them have been turned off by my explicit and vivid descriptions of the kind of deep psychological work I've been doing, and why …
This is a quick note to folks who were reading my series on Co-Dependency in the scene and have been waiting for the last part in the series.
I have a partial draft of it that I'm working off of, but I feel I'm not ready to release it. Frankly …
Power Exchange is not topping. Power exchange is not domming. Power exchange is not mastery. Yet it gets conflated with all of these in our community. That's because along with the love, the trust, the caring and wish fulfillment, we are in love with imagery and symbolism. We love the …
I've never been one to subscribe to those online quizzes that revel some deep part of your personality to you, but I took the Love Languages one (http://www.5lovelanguages.com/) and it did was illuminating.
Here are my results:
9 Quality Time 7 Acts of Service 6 Words of …
About six months ago, I wrote a post called I want to tie you, not marry you... (intimacy in the scene) about how a scene can be intimate without implying more commitment beyond the parameters of the scene itself. But that's only half the story....
It can be really confusing …