If I had a nickel for every cis het male message on fet to a woman that presumes entitlement culture, I'm sure I could buy everyone a round of drinks.
Usually we hear about cis het males feeling entitled to someone's submission.
When I ran my sex chat ...
Being in the vanilla dating world is hard. Even when a partner is kinky, there is a huge bridge to gap when it comes to discussing play.
People who choose me for dating do so partially on the grounds that I'm kinky, and that I'm good at what ...
For all the talk online about "true doms" I thought I'd mention a situation I've found myself in when I partake in vanilla dating- that is dating people from the vanilla world, and how much it sucks.
We talk about kink and they like the fact I'm ...
In this multi-part series of posts, I'm bringing my personal experience and research to bear to show what an unhealthy relationship with someone with Borderline Personality Disorder looks like, as well as then provide resources for improving the situation.
In my [first posting][https://fetlife.com/users/4718001/posts ...
There are many bad relationships in the BDSM community that are toxic, but are masked as D/s relationships. In this multi-part series of posts, I'm bringing my experience and research to bear to show what an unhealthy relationship with someone with Borderline Personality Disorder looks like, as well ...
This is by far the most personal piece of writing I've done. In direct connection to the post I made a few months back about how I came to realize that several of my ex's had Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). Starting with her, I began to document ...
Coercion isn't a topic we see discussed very often in our community. It doesn't fit the consent narrative. We assume that in kink both parties must be coming at things from an entirely equal place before and during negotiation, and then that established the parameters of play.
This ...
Our community is getting increasingly tense. We hear about consent violators every day. Bottoms are worried about being violated, tops are worried about being accused. Some kinds of problems aren't talked about at all. The blowups are getting bigger and more intense. And all the while, we seem to ...
I turned on the television and watched one of my junk TV shows "Bar Rescue", and I see a "BDSM Munch" in a bar, with play... (episode 12 Beers a Slave)
I get needing a place for a munch that will let you. I'm in the process of trying ...
On STC yesterday, I was asked a question I've been asked many times before by men, "Do you share your sub?".
I didn't understand what they meant at first.
Did they mean do I have my subs do domestic chores for others?
They didn't mean that.
Did ...