Gentlemen, listen up. I've done the work for you. As some of you know, I used to run a sex chat website called STC. I also use other chat platforms, and on those platforms, I hear from women how frustated they are at dealing with men. So sometimes I ...

There are many sentiments on Fetlife that being a dominant means that it shouldn't all be about the dominant- that sometimes it should be about the submissive and their needs.

And of course this is true; any relationship where one party thinks nothing of the other party's well ...

I've been a fan of Al Franken for decades. I first became aware of him through his work on SNL in the 90s, and his Stuart Smalley character. I soon learned that he was a writer there and was part of other amazing work I'd enjoyed.

Then, in ...

For thirty-seven years, I've called the United States my home. I wasn't born here and as a dual citizen, I've always had the opportunity to leave. As time has gone on, I've considered doing so, and that consideration has become increasingly serious over the last year ...

When the news about Harvey Weinstein first came out, I didn't pay attention. When the news about Louis CK came out, something changed.

I don't know Louie CK, not personally anyway. I've seen his television shows and specials and I've even seen him live. I'm ...

In the last few weeks, I've seen the issue of neurodiversity come up in the BDSM community in ways that give me concern. This post is a rough outline of my feelings on the topic.

I am neurodivergent. What that means specifically is that my neurological makeup is significantly ...

My wonderful partner recently told me about a fantasy she had, one she's been too embarrassed to tell me about. I, in turn, told her about a fantasy I'd been having.

My heart was in my throat when I told her mine, and I know she was equally ...

There are many things about our community that I love, Woke Culture Jamming is one of them.

What do I mean by that? I mean that it's possible to see something for what it is, even if it's a dark or destructive impulse, acknowledge it, reject it and ...

I am lucky enough to live in one of the small pockets of the world that has an active BDSM community. And I'm privileged enough to be a part of that community through TES. If you look at the events in NYC for this week on Fetlife, I see ...

You may try to deny it, but I know you're all secretly sadists...

You know your hair sheds in the bed and wraps itself around my genitals at night, causing me to wake up in pain.

You've been pulling this non-consensual CBT stuff long enough! It's time ...