Let's take this in two parts.

The first part is that no matter how many times we say it, there are about a thousand guys who seem to seem not to hear it.

Cock isn't in short supply

Merely being present and having a penis does not make you an …

I talked with a man recently who attended his first play party. It didn't go well and it reminded me of my own bad experiences at play parties.

I was terrified at my first play party. A friend of mine in the scene brought me along with her (thank you …

I talk to a lot of people who want my help in cheating on their spouse.

Let me make a few things clear:

• The fact that she hasn't had sex with you in five years isn't an excuse to cheat.

• The fact he is physically abusive isn't an excuse to …

I've been reading a lot lately about incels. If you're unfamiliar with the term, it is a person (usually a man) who is "Involuntarily Celibate". This term has at its core a lot of toxic ideas, including and misogyny and entitlement.

The incel movement is harmful and dangerous, but it …

One of the most challenging things that a new kinkster faces is the question of how to bring up and explore kink with their partner. This topic is often poorly covered by both mainstream and BDSM communities for reasons later. Nonetheless, this topic deserves discussion and consideration since for many …

Last week, I was the victim of cyberbullying by a person in the kink community. Reflecting on my experience, I've had a few thoughts about cyberbullying, as well as abusive behavior in general.

First, cyberbullying is no different than other forms of bullying or abusive behavior. Recently on Fetlife K …

In the last month, I've had to let people go, out of my life.

Just about a month ago, I told my mother that I didn't want to speak with her again after she made some racist statements about black people.

On Facebook, I've had to unfriend people due to …

The NYC kink scene is in a state that some have called chaos, others have called reformation, and I consider a raging tire fire.

Every week there is a blowup about a new consent violator- and for every big name, several smaller names go unnoticed. Event organizers have taken a …

I've become more vocal lately about my criticism of the scene, especially in NYC, where I live.

I have seen others be critical from a place on high, talking about the consent actions of others and contrasting themselves as the pillar of righteousness and goodness.

I am not that.

I …

One of the themes that I keep reading about in the various reports about consent violations and abuse is that many times the victims didn't come forth because they wanted to appear "drama free".

I've also met people who will avoid others due to being "drama". I've also been accused …