I talk to a lot of people who want my help in cheating on their spouse.

Let me make a few things clear:

• The fact that she hasn't had sex with you in five years isn't an excuse to cheat.

• The fact he is physically abusive isn't an excuse to cheat.

• The fact she will want half your money in a divorce is not a reason to cheat.

• The fact that your lifestyle will go down after you divorce isn't a reason to cheat.

• The fact that you'd need to split custody isn't a reason to cheat.

• The fact that they're physically sick and unable to perform sexually isn't an excuse to cheat.

• The fact that you're a "very sexual person" isn't an an excuse to cheat.

• The fact that you suspect they've cheated in the past isn't an excuse to cheat.

Those are reasons to have conversations with your spouse, to try to get your needs met, or to leave. But there are not good excuses to betray the boundaries of your relationship.