My wonderful partner recently told me about a fantasy she had, one she's been too embarrassed to tell me about. I, in turn, told her about a fantasy I'd been having.

My heart was in my throat when I told her mine, and I know she was equally nervous telling …

There are many things about our community that I love, Woke Culture Jamming is one of them.

What do I mean by that? I mean that it's possible to see something for what it is, even if it's a dark or destructive impulse, acknowledge it, reject it and then use …

I am lucky enough to live in one of the small pockets of the world that has an active BDSM community. And I'm privileged enough to be a part of that community through TES. If you look at the events in NYC for this week on Fetlife, I see nearly …

You may try to deny it, but I know you're all secretly sadists...

You know your hair sheds in the bed and wraps itself around my genitals at night, causing me to wake up in pain.

You've been pulling this non-consensual CBT stuff long enough! It's time for the truth …

That's right- that's the whole message- Fight Injustice Everywhere.

If you see people getting an unfair shake because they were born into a body with a different color than the people in power, help them.

If you see people getting an unfair shake because they were born with a body …

This is the final installment of my six part series on Borderline and Codependency in the BDSM community. In this post, I will outline resources to help the Codependent live a happier life.

If you haven't read the other parts, they are:

Part 1: [The Appeal of a Borderline Partner …

I'm a lucky to be a Jewish man living in New York, though truth be told, luck isn't a part of it. I chose to live here. At age 32, I moved to New York city, in part because I wanted to be around Jewish culture.

I'm not especially religious …

When I was in college, I read the "The Republic" which discussed many ideas, one of which is generally known in English as "Might Makes Right" (which it then disproves). Unfortunately, I've seen a theme in the kink community I'll call "Interest Makes Right". Here's how that argument generally goes …

Our community has at its core a few principles, one of which is that we don't kink-shame. We don't tell other people that their kink is wrong or right, or that how they practice it is right or wrong. But that doesn't mean that how someone else's practices their kink …

I've seen a very sad trend in the NYC kink community, and that's taking a small pie and cutting it up into smaller, segregated pieces.

Let's be frank for a moment: We're a tiny minority group.

I think that if you count all the regulars in NYC, you're really only …