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Tired of Ghosting? What about Blinky?

As a child of the 80s, I grew up playing Pac-Man and defeating Pac-Man's four ghost foes: Blinky, Pinky, Inky and Clyde.

Many of us are familiar with the kind of ghosting where a person you're in touch with disappears, there's another kind of ghosting- the Blinky kind.

In Blinky Ghosting, the person you're talking to will appear and disappear. They may do this by arranging to talk to you and then disappearing (only to reappear later), by appearing and disappearing on social media, or by just sort of floating in and out of your life.

Blinky types seem to set off a short circuit in my brain, and not in a way that's healthy for me. I will assume that they're in need, or in trouble, only for them to emerge later as if nothing had happened, often after having ignored my communication asking if they're okay.

I usually try to analyze why a person is doing what they're doing, but this is a mistake with the blinky type, as their disappearing/reappearing nature makes it hard to get a handle on them and what's going on. Whether they intend it or not, they draw me in and push me away, and it's not healthy.

As one of my new year's resolutions for 2018, I'm done chasing ghosts.

Now, where's that cherry in the center of the screen...